The persistent belief is that women are looking for long-term committed relationship and men are looking for short-term sexual relationships.That may be true for younger people, but that isn’t always the case at this age, she says.Because men have shorter lifespans, many older men are interested in having a potential caregiver or a “nurse with a purse.” They tend to marry quicker than older women, but it isn’t because older women can’t find a hubby; it’s because women are more likely to be looking for a short-term relationship or a companion, not a husband.That isn’t true for my three girlfriends, but it’s true for me. I loaded rolls of old carpets into my car and hauled them to the dumpster. I reorganized, and then, I put it all back together—by myself.I do almost everything by myself—I snake the drains, fix things around the house, hang pictures, patch and paint when necessary. I want to be in love and have someone to go on walks and bike rides with, someone to watch movies with, and make love with.
They are all 50-something, empty-nesters and divorced. The difference between men and women at this age, however, is that we don’t necessarily want the same things.It’s pretty obvious that dating is quite different for women and men.For women, dating means that they have the opportunity to be made to feel special. “We’re perpetually fed a line that we’re looking for love in a market that doesn’t value us,” says Marina Adshade, an economics professor in Canada and author of . However, with the gray divorce boom, there are a lot more older people available than ever before. That said, the dating market for older singles isn’t all that easy. There just aren’t that many available singles our age and the ones who are available are an interesting lot (read Anne Lamott’s funny take of her year on to understand).